9 Common Traits of Happy People (That They Don't Talk About)
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Happiness. It’s the term thrown around more often than any other term when people
are asked what they are looking for in life. A loving partner, a fun high-paying job and
endless world travel are also amongst some of the most common answers, however
all of these are preference-based means to the one ultimate end, which is happiness.
Being so sought-after, I thought I’d comprise a list of common traits that seem to be
found in happy people -and I’m talking about the genuinely happy people, and not just
those who appear to be so on the surface.
By compiling this list I’m not suggesting that these are the only keys to happiness,
I’m simply shedding light on some common characteristics I’ve come to find.
1. Love Themselves For Who They Are
On the surface this may sound incredibly egotistical, but by it I simply mean that
they are truly comfortable in their own shoes. They accept and embrace themselves
physically, they maintain their true character traits regardless of whether or not they
receive approval and they work to make the best of the human experience they are
living - rather than wallow in what others would define as weaknesses or shortcomings.
2. See Relationships As An Extension To, Rather Than The Basis Of The Human Experience
Relationships, whether friendly, familial or romantic, are certainly one of the greatest
parts of the human experience. However, far too many of us let their presence or
absence, and even more so the value we attribute to them dictate our overall happiness
in life. I’ve found that genuinely happy people tend to find complete contentment
within themselves, and see all relationships as the awesome extension to their
self-content. It’s often when we are not looking for others to fill a particular void, or
to make us feel a certain way, that most of the truest and most-valuable relationships
are formed.
3. Embrace Change
Life is a constant lesson and happy people tend to be well-aware of that. Not only are
they always open to change, but they truly listen to suggestions, respect and consider
all opinions and take criticism constructively rather than offensively.
4. Celebrate Rather Than Compare Themselves To
The Accomplishments Of Others
Jealousy is a killer, and as Gary Allan once said, “You can be the moon and still be
jealous of the stars.” We are all capable of accomplishing anything in this life and
are the only ones that are going to find the drive within ourselves to do it. Rather
than observe and compare to those who have accomplished, the truly happy tend
to celebrate it and use it as motivation to accomplish things within their own lives.
5. Never Dwell In Being A Victim
We’ve all been the so-called ‘victim’ to several things in life. Whether it be an
unexpected break-up, getting fired from a job, or even something as serious
as the recipient of domestic abuse. Truly happy people tend to be those who
choose not to dwell in it. They choose to let the victimization strengthen them,
rather than wear it as a badge of weakness or as the thing that makes them
consistently worthy of receiving sympathy.
6. They Live In The Present
As fun as reminiscing about the past or fantasizing about the future can be,
nothing will ever be done in anything but the present and happy people tend
to realize that. Not only do they realize it, but they tend to use it as motivation
to make the most of it. In addition to being motivating, presence can also come
in handy for truly appreciating those moments of relaxation, allowing yourself
to be truly in them, rather than projecting future concerns into them.
7. Trust That Everything Happens For A Reason
This can very easily be paired with the choice to not be a victim, but happy people
tend to trust the process and existence of everything in their life. They know that
nothing is ever too big to handle and choose to embrace what life is currently
throwing at them rather than cowering at the sight of it.
8. They Don’t Let Money Dictate Their Lives
Nobody is denying that in this world right now we all need money to exist, and as
a result many of us spend the bulk of our lives doing things that help us earn it.
What I’ve found to differentiate happy people is that they don’t let money be the
ultimate dictator in their life. They still make sensible choices within their means,
but they never let money: A) prevent them from pursuing a so-called “risky” passion,
B) be the factor that is blamed for why their life is so miserable, C) complain about
how little they have. There are creative ways to do everything in this world, and
seeing money as only being possible to make in the standard ways is the most
crippling thing to that creativity.
9. Look Within For Solutions
One of the most powerful realizations a genuinely happy person will often operate
based on is “change starts within.” The empowerment that comes as a result of not
only realizing this but even more so in using it as the backbone to everything in life
can be quite remarkable. There are thousands of books, mantras, techniques and
practices out there that can all help us to find solutions to so many things in life,
but they all require one thing to truly be serviceable: the consciousness to support
them.
Vocabulary:
preference-based means - środki oparte na osobistych preferencjach common traits - wspólne cechy to shed light on - rzucić światło na comprise - złożyć, składać się to be comfortable in one's own shoes - czuć sie dobrze we własnej skórze regardless - bez względu na wallow in - rozczulać się nad shortcomings - braki extension - przedłużenie attribute to - przypisywać void - pustka to embrace life/change - brać/akceptować życie/zmiany takimi jakie są accomplish - osiągnąć tend to - mieć zwyczaj dwell on - skupiać się na, rozpamiętywać domestic abuse - przemoc domowa victimization - skrzywdzenie consistently - konsekwentnie reminiscing about - wspominać to make the most of it - wziąść z tego (np.doświadczenia) tyle ile się da to come in handy - przydać się cower - kulić się a bulk of - ogrom crippling - paraliżujący look within for solutions - spójrz wewnątrz siebie i tam szukaj rozwiązań
backbone - podstawa, kręgosłup consciousness - świadomość
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